Motivation
A majority of my work is dedicated to helping others achieve a life of purpose, joy, fulfillment. But, what does that actually mean in terms of what you do? Lets start with what you see yourself doing, what is your dream job? What are you doing for work now? Is it satisfying?
Do you wake up most days looking forward to the day and what it has in store?
The diagram below is an illustration of part of my process. Meeting your psychological needs by doing what you love in fulfillment of another person’s need means you can get paid very well. This is much different than the Insta-rich frauds peddling get rich quick real estate millions in six months B.S. that is so prevalent.
You wont be motivated to do something that you don’t value.
People come to me and say something like, “I need help getting or staying motivated”. My question is, “for what”? Usually it is something they find boring, unfulfilling, but sometimes necessary to achieve an outcome. The first place I look is that desired outcome. Is that really what they want? Is the goal they are after truly what they desire, something that will bring them fulfillment? A lot of the time we desire an outcome but are getting there by a means that does not play to our level of need, and is not something we love to do. For instance, a student that wants to be more motivated to attend class has a “goal” of making a lot of money as a trader on Wall Street. He takes all the right classes but when asked, he knows very little about a career on Wall Street other than most of the traders have the degree he is pursuing and they make a lot of money (no, this scenario is not uncommon). Why would this person be motivated to attend class? He is unsure of his path to the outcome he desires, it is ill-defined, completely self-serving, and full of uncertainty. The answer is to drill down on all the reasons he wants to make a lot of money and why a trader on Wall Street fulfills this better than a number of other professions. He also needs to research much more regarding the ups and downs of that field.
Finding your purpose, living a fulfilled life, is possible. It requires work, and overcoming the stories you tell yourself about why you can’t achieve it, but it is possible.
